Lead us not into temptation…

The other day, I was looking over statistics regarding the divorce rate among heterosexual couples;  I found it quite disturbing.   I remember an instance back in sixth grade when one of my teachers was conducting a poll of some sort and asked the class a few questions:  “How many of you have moved at least once in your life?”  About half of the class raised their hands.  He looked around and then asked the next question: “How many of you have parents who are divorced?”  This time almost two thirds of the class raised their hands in affirmation.  I don’t remember the specifics of what we were talking about, but the results of this impromptu poll, were clear:  Divorce was the new norm. 

I used to take it for granted that my parents had always been together.  Growing up in the church, this all seemed to make perfect sense, but I never understood how two people who vowed to love each other forever and ever were able to just one day absolve each other of their vows and move on with their lives with other people… until I hit puberty. 

Sexuality is a crazy beast.  There are all sorts of arguments on all sides in regards to human sexuality.  Some say that man is not made to be with one person alone, others say that once you commit to somebody, that’s it!  Love, lust, desire, infatuation are crazy emotions.  Some say that in order to love, you must not follow your heart, but your mind… Is this really true?

They also go on to say that in order to be truly happy, you must find your soul-mate.  Now, I’m not sure if I actually believe in “soul-mates”, but I do believe that there is somebody out there for everybody.  It may take some time, and in this day and age, patience is definitely a lost art.   

Regardless of whether or not you are in a relationship now, one thing remains clear, there are still really attractive people out there.  Marriage isn’t some sort of panacea that will cure all of your lusts and desires.  Granted, you may find a really SMOKIN’ hot person, but there is always someone out there who is better looking.  I know, I know… I hate when people say that, because c’mon, ultimately there will be the hottest of the hot and you won’t be able to get any hotter.  But you know what? The world is too big, you’ll never find that.  

So, I know you’re reading this and thinking, “So what the fuck is he trying to say?”  My point is that when it comes down to a relationship, it comes down to trust and keeping your word.  Regardless of how much your penis or vagina is telling you that it wants to venture out and tap the first ass it sees, you need to “whip” it into shape and keep your integrity pure.  Make sure that you are true to the person you vow yourself to.  If that means a longer courting phase, then do it. 

LGBT relationships have this stigma about them that they are superficial and last only months (if that)at a time.  I know, it’s in line with straight relationships, but we’re better than that, right? (Insert head nod here)  It’s up to each and every one of us to try to get this changed.  I do admit, I am the first to say “Who are the hell are these straight people judging our relationships when they can’t even keep a faithful one of their own.” But, alas, that is the way it is…for now. 

I would just hate to see gay relationships follow the path of the old “straight” relationships and become what they are now.   Lead us not into the “straight relationship”, but deliver us from evil. 

Thanks Mom and Dad, you’ve shown me that it is possible.